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How can I get my boyfriend to talk to me about his baby?!?
August 30, 2010 by destiny
Category Baby Toys | Tags: , about, baby, boyfriend, talk
You’ve been with him for two years and he won’t talk about this?
That’s not good at all. First of all, you can’t become the mother of this child. She clearly has a mother. You have to respect that.
I don’t know what he’s hiding, but he definitely is hiding something. You can’t force him to talk, but before you marry him, take him to counseling and see if the professionals can get him to open up. Him leaving you completely in the dark is a sign that he doesn’t fully trust you. And that’s not someone you should marry.
This is a very difficult situation to deal with. It could be a number of things on why he has not introduced you to his daughter.
1. His baby momma might not approve of you with her child. (this happens a lot unfortunately, Jealousy)
2. He could be having a relationship with her and child.
3. He is just not ready to introduce another mommy figure into his daughter’s life yet.
Either way you must fall back. Why, because this is not your child. He will introduce you when he is ready. Some people feel strong about waiting to introduce their friend/lover to their child.
Your not over-reacting, when your such a big part of his life its perfectly normal to feel excluded when he doesn’t share all of himself with you, which in this case includes his baby girl.
I wouldn’t be put of by this. If your thinking along the lines of his potential as a father when the two of you have kids then things will be different when the kid is yours.
Have you badgered him for the reason why he doesn’t include you into this? Its no good asking him to include you and not asking why he isn’t doing it. If you’ve asked and he hasn’t given an answer, there could be a handful of reasons for this.
Of the top of my head, one reason could be that now that the two of you are together, he doesn’t want a reminder of the relationship with this other girl that didn’t work out to get in the way of the great relationship he has with you. He might be thinking that you don’t want to see the result of what was a broken relationship between him and his ex, and so in front of you he doesn’t show much interest in her. Whatever the reason is, I bet when your not around, his baby girl will one of the biggest things in his life and I’m sure he loves her to pieces, he is just not showing that to you for some reason. Please don’t be put off by it, if you have a good solid relationship with him then you will be able to work this out and hopefully be great parents yourself one day.