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Boyfriend of nearly 4 years still MARRIED! And we have a baby on the WAY?
August 31, 2010 by destiny
Category Baby Toys | Tags: , baby, boyfriend, married, nearly, still, Years
I hate to say, but that happens all too often…..cheating, LIES, promises, etc. Then stays with the current wife or has a change of heart and stays with the current wife……..
Dump him! Even if he says he wanted the baby, I wouldn’t want my baby having a dad with those kinds of morals around and influencing my kid’s life. No woman deserves to be screwed around like that!
Wow! What a loser. You should have checked him out before you decided to have a baby with him. File for child support. You can do it before the baby is born now.
i think you need to leave him and also make sure you get child support. he has officially wasted your time.
The age old typical situation of the cheating married man, lying to the other woman….happens all the time, all over the world. Have the baby, but DROP HIM NOW, like a hot potatoe. You deserve better.
be firmer and very direct…by ordering him for the papers….or even tell him to get another to supply it by mail to him!why in the hell did you start off with this guy in the beginning, he sounds like a real lier…and most of all he is a lier to himself!!! did you guys plan for this this baby? or did it just happen? you have a little life to think about soon..
If he cheated and lied ONCE, he’d be out the door. I wouldn’t lower myself to someone who doesn’t respect me or himself.
He’s a loser. Dump him.. pregnant or not, you deserve a better life than this… unless you like continual drama, because that’s what you are going to get if you stick with him.
i hope you take care of YOU… do you deserve this? I hope you don’t think you do?
Give him a deadline to produce the divorce papers or go to his wife. If you do not want him in your child life have him give up his rights. If he lied to you about this what else has he lied to you about?
That’s why it’s called secrets, lies and deceit for a reason-because eventually the truth will come out in the end. Here’s the real truth, your married boyfriend ISN’T going to divorce his wife, regardless of what he says-his actions are speaking louder than words. He’s not going anywhere, PERIOD. Whether his wife knows about his extramarital activities, knows about your or your child, never mind that-either she does or she doesn’t. Don’t go getting her involved, because you also might not like what the end result will be. So, he wants the baby, because he doesn’t have to deal with the baby on a daily basis, you do. Your best bet, is to get rid of this loser, because you’re not going to be his wife and even if you could do, what makes you think that you’ll be any better than his current wife? Your focus now, should be on the child and just suing him for child support. So what, if his wife founds out, this is rightfully due to the child and never mind what he says, feels and the likes. He had enough time to get his affairs in order and he hasn’t done it-I doubt it if he will, once he gets slapped with support papers, he might try and sue for custody, right along with his wife-just to piss you off. That’s when you need to remain calm and just go about your business of raising your child. You deserve someone better, who’s worthy of your time and love. It might be hard in the beginning, being a single parent, but you can do it. Just quit focusing on the mistakes, and focus on the present, to make a better life for you and your baby.
Good luck in this situation.
WTF ! that is such a waste of TIME*! Its too bad that ur pregnant from the looser. I would move far away! U can usually predict Ur future with a weirdo judging from they re past. It doesn’t look bright!
Matter of fact he sounds like a SOCIOPATH!
Get it together! Ur going to be a parent and should want to give ur child a normal life. Not empty promises from the father.
dump him……… dump him ……………dump him…………… men can be good fathers and shi@y lovers/companions. move on before he takes 4 more years away from you. what a waste of time.
There are some issues you didn’t address. Was he divorced in the state that you looked up? Do you know who he was married to? For instance, I wasn’t made aware from the courts that I was still legally married to my husband that I had legally separated from. The courts failed to notify us that the legal separation was only valid for one year. And this issue only became a problem when I became involved with someone who really cared. I did finally legally divorce him once I could afford it. At least to prove to my significant other at the time that there was no love there. Your boyfriend may also have issues with marriage. Not necessarily that he doesn’t love you but maybe he doesn’t want to get caught up in all the legal aspect again. And maybe once the baby is here he will feel differently. Good Luck
Maybe he found the easy way out of his marriage and thats why he is with you.Are he is running from something and doesnt want to be found?
Do what your heart tells you?Do you want your child around someone that lies?